Editor’s Note: The Current received the following letter from a visitor reacting to the recent pro-life demonstration. Click HERE for that report.
This weekend my family and I visited Bonnechere Provincial Park. We had a wonderful time and were shocked on our way out of town to come across dozens of people standing on the side of the roads protesting a woman’s right to choose.
My husband and I were disgusted at this display and truthfully, it made your town seem uneducated, backwards in thought and made us not want to spend money in Barry’s Bay or the surrounding area.
Access to safe, legal abortions are critical to women’s health.
Mostly, I’m wondering, what is your goal in standing on the side of the road in the rain? Is it to get enough citizens on your side that abortions become illegal again? If so, you are killing women. While your signs say “Abortions kill children” not having access to safe abortions kills women and children.
Abortions have always existed. Before, they were done with coat hangers by desperate women and often they would die or become barren. The fetus would be killed, too, in a much less humane way.
When we take away abortion rights, data shows this disproportionately affects women of colour and women who are poor. Rich people will always find a way to get access. In this way, the anti-choice movement is inherently racist.
It is shameful to have your children out there standing in the rain for this issue. You are entitled to your opinion; however, abortion in Canada has been legal for decades and that is not about to change. Those of us in the pro-choice movement far outnumber anti-choice voices.
Furthermore, to the men protesting, do you have a uterus? If not, you should not be out there. A woman’s right to choose is between her and her doctor and, in some instances, a supportive partner.
I’m curious, do any of the protestors have adopted children? If not, why? Would you be willing to adopt a child in lieu of the fetus being aborted?
By protesting this issue, all you’re doing is further shaming desperate women (and girls) who are already facing the most agonizing choice of their lives.
What happens when a woman isn’t emotionally or financially able to bring a child into this world? Those of us who are parents know how hard it is. Now imagine if you didn’t want that child, if you’re a teenager, if you’re a drug addict or if you’re already poor. How would you do it? What would that child’s life look like? In all likelihood, that child would be subject to a very difficult, if not miserable, life.
When you are standing there on the street, you are telling the people in your community and those driving through it, you are people who do not care about women’s rights. You are putting a fetus, who literally cannot survive outside the womb without the mother, ahead of the living, breathing woman or girl carrying that fetus. You care more about that fetus than the woman carrying it or about the child it could become.
For that, we say shame on you. Shame on you for not researching this issue. Shame on you for being against women’s rights. Shame on you for caring only about a fetus, but not what happens to them once they are born into this world.
If a fetus is a child of God, is the woman carrying the fetus not also a child of God? Does she have no say over her own body in her own life?
What about girls who are raped? They’ve already been through trauma and you think it’s necessary for them to put their body and mind through the difficulty of childbirth and the changes that impact your body forever once you’ve been through it?
What about the women who will die if they carry through with a pregnancy that their body cannot manage?
What about the parents who find out they are going to have a stillborn child and have to go through the horror of a second trimester (or worse) a third trimester abortion?
There is no woman out there who makes the choice of abortion lightly. It stays with them forever. Some regret it, most don’t, but regardless, it should be their choice to make. Not yours. Not lawmakers.
In conclusion, if you are so desperately against abortion that you care enough about this issue to stand out in the rain, may I suggest your community enacts vasectomies for the men and boys in it? Vasectomies are easily reversed and would eliminate abortions entirely.
Women are blamed, shamed and it is their lives who are most negatively impacted by unwanted pregnancies. There is no pregnancy without sperm. De-fertilize the sperm until the man or boy is ready to have children, then reverse it. It is a virtually painless operation. No more abortions. No more women and girls and their families in peril.
Thank you for your time. We hope when we drive through Barry’s Bay again we don’t see you on the side of the street. And if you are still anti-choice, please, keep it to yourself.
Note to our readers: Further comments on this letter will be accepted until 4:00 p.m. on Wednesday, October 14, 2020.